Thank You

Hello friends,

The time has finally come for the second phase of the wedding threesome contest to come to a close.

We’re not going to lie — at the end of phase I, when we heard that we had to keep up a blog for three weeks during the middle of final exams and final projects, we were less than thrilled about the idea. These three weeks have really been some of the busiest of our lives. However, despite our crazy schedules — we prevailed. And since a majority of these posts were written by both of us, together — the task actually served to strengthen our bond as a couple. During some of those crazy, busy days, it was almost therapeutic to actually sit down together for an hour or two and write stories and laugh about times when it wasn’t so crazy.

Naturally, we got by with a little help from our friends, too. On some of those days when we just couldn’t find an hour to come up with bloggy genius together, some really amazing people were there to bail us out. Brian, Tawn, Miles, Jeff — we really appreciate your special guest contributions – you have no idea how huge they actually were for us.

We would also like to thank all of you who have devoted a bit of your time each day to coming and reading the blog. We can’t even believe the amount of views we’ve gotten in just three weeks – and from all over the world, too!

The winning couples from phase II will be announced here http://www.weddinggirl.ca/ on Monday, April 16th. Three out of the four couples will be moving on to phase III, but we don’t yet know what phase III has in store for (hopefully) us.

We sincerely hope that we don’t have to harass you all again — but if we do, we’re certain that you will have our backs! Your support throughout this whole competition has been unparalleled and we appreciate everything that all of you have done for us.

Writing this blog has definitely been a lot of fun. It has given us the opportunity to reflect on a lot of the fun things that we’ve done during our time together; It’s given us the opportunity to express some of our ideas and visions about our wedding day; And — of course — it’s given us the opportunity to share all of these experiences with you all.

We will leave you now with ten reasons why we think that we should move on to phase III:

  1. We are two amazing people who really deserve a break
  2. We have the best and most supportive friends and family!
  3. Our blog has been awesome (it’s been cute, touching, funny, sweet, romantic…)
  4. The announcement is the day after Jackson’s birthday — and moving to phase III would be a sweet present (‘that plus beer,’ says Jackson)
  5. Loretta’s computer died yesterday so now we have to pay for that, too
  6. Loretta’s high school cheerleading team gets a pizza party if we win
  7. Jackson’s friends each get one beer if we win
  8. We have a really cute puppy
  9. We have been paying for school for a combined 13 years – with 5 more years to go!
  10. We really want to be able to afford the wedding of our dreams

If you all can think of any other reasons as to why we should win – show us some love and post it as a reply! Let’s give Jay from Captivate Bridal, Rick from Rick Denham Photography and Mary from a little help in selecting this year’s Wedding Threesome Contest winners 😉

How it all Began – The Story of our First Date

Jackson here. This is the story of our first date – from my perspective.

It was mid-March, 2009 when Loretta and I had our first date. I was super nervous. My hands were sweaty, my voice was shaking. I was in trouble.

However, as luck would have it, I was guided by some excellent advice (and even a prop) given to me by Miles, one of my amazing groomsmen. He suggested that if you’re really nervous on a first date, it’s good to have some kind of an activity do so that you can fill in any possible awkward moments with a turn at the activity – and for those who know me well, you know that I have a tendency to be a little awkward at times.

For Loretta and I, this activity was Boggle – Miles actually lent me his personal copy for that night. But even though I had this genius crutch, I don’t think I actually needed it as Loretta and I hit it off tremendously (though, I probably had a little extra confidence having that awkward-saver as a back-up if I needed it!).

Boggle - great first date activity!

Loretta set out some treats for us to munch on – white wine (Riesling, at least a 2) and some pineapple with chocolate dipping sauce (mmmm).

We played a few rounds of Boggle as we munched on pineapple and sipped on Late Autumn Riesling. As I kept winning round after round of boggle (I’m a words-guy!), I could tell that Loretta wasn’t really fond of losing – so I let her win a couple of rounds. Good thing the conversation came so easily, because the Boggle may not have been the perfect fall-back crutch that I had hoped it would be!

Loretta had a great sense of humour and seemed to really take a shining to my goofiness and especially liked my Mike Tyson impersonation – I had been working on it earlier that week. As the night wore on, I noticed that if she got up off the couch to do something, when she came back she would sit down closer and closer to me every time. I thought – she likes me, awesome!

The defining moment must have been when Mr. Deeds unexpectedly came on the TV. Prior to our first date, we had talked about how we loved comedy movies and Adam Sandler’s Mr. Deeds was one of the films at the top of our lists – this couldn’t be just a coincidence!

'The hideousness of that foot will haunt my dreams forever'

When the night was over, Loretta showed me to the door.  This was it – the ‘make-it or break-it’ moment – time to leave a lasting impression. As we both went in for the kiss goodnight, Loretta went for the lips – and I went for the cheek. The kiss ended up being an awkward combination of a half-cheek, half-lip kiss.

I thought to myself – ‘I blew it, best just to get out without any more awkwardness.’ So then I turned to the door and pulled on the handle and it wouldn’t move – it was locked.  Of course it was. Loretta unlocked the door opened it up for me and as my face burned with embarrassment, I thanked her and walked out the door. Way to go, Jackson – way to leave a ‘lasting impression.’

Fortunately for me, Loretta (obviously) overlooked that awkward ending – she actually found my nervousness and awkwardness to be kind of endearing. And look at us now, more than three years later and engaged to be married!

It only took about 15-20 dates for me to stop shaking like a leaf every time I went to knock on her door.

A picture of us during our first summer together

Thoughts from A Groomsman – Special Guest Blog

When Miles, one of our ridiculously handsome groomsmen, heard that we were featuring special guest blog authors – he was chomping at the bit to get in on a little bloggy-style (wedding) threesome action! He’s a beauty! Enjoy…

Jackson and I have been great friends since high school. I think it was our mutual admiration for Led Zeppelin that brought us together in Clarkie’s communications class. When you see another dude wearing a Zep t-shirt, you know the guy is good shit.

As the years went on our friendship grew tremendously. This was made even stronger by the fact that we both attended McMaster University at the same time a few years ago filled with lots of coffee rendezvous’ in the Student Centre and mid afternoon beers in the campus bar, Quarters. McMaster’s campus was probably the site of our most epic adventure together, so join me friends, as I describe ‘St. Patty’s Day 2009.’

When we woke up that morning we knew we wanted to get drunk somewhere. We had a vague plan in our minds to go to school, get some beer, and that was basically the extent of it. We arrived on campus around lunch time without the foggiest idea of where we would go or what we would do, all we knew was that beer was needed and it would be consumed. After hitting the Beer Store, we embarked back to campus with backpacks full of beer and nowhere to drink them.  The rest of the day played out like this. After having a quick forest beer we staked out one of the buildings where we waited for Jackson’s friend who lived in res to get out of class. After very little convincing, and the offer of some of our beer, we went back to the res, and consumed the beer. The rest of the evening involved going to a few pubs, and breaking up a domestic disturbance on the street between a guy and his girlfriend. With nowhere to retire to, we slept in my car amid temperatures that reached freezing. Being drunk as it turns out really does make you feel warmer.

This also happened to be a few days before Jackson and Loretta’s first date, and I remember vividly the excitement with which Jackson talked about it. Little did either of us know that that first encounter, a few days later, would be such a momentous occasion in his life. If I can claim any small role in the early success of their relationship, and considering how well it turned out, I think it’s fair to be a little selfish in claiming a role, it would be me lending my boggle board game to Jackson which they played on their first date. If I never owned boggle and couldn’t have lent it to Jackson, who knows what would have happened? Actually, I’m fairly certain things would have turned out just the same, but come on, I can take a little satisfaction out of that can’t I?

I love both of these guys and am so happy that they found each other! I would also like to suggest, for nostalgia sake, that we have a forest beer on your wedding day. No? Probably not? Alright I’ll just drop it then.

Our featured author - Imagine how handsome the male half of the bridal party is going to be if this is only one fifth of the crew. Lookin' good, Miles!

For The Love of Sports

Jackson is a little bit of a sports nut.  Loretta says: “I think little bit is a little bit of an understatement!”

He takes his sports pretty seriously, and he has a tendency to get pretty animated. Funny thing is, Loretta is actually a national level champion in cheerleading. You would think that she was the best equipped of the pair to cheer on any team, but when the Canadiens or the Blue Jays are playing, Jackson often puts Loretta to shame.

As a couple, we’ve attended many sporting events together. However, it seems as though every time we make the effort to go and see a game, for some reason, the good guys usually lose – badly.

For example, one Christmas, Loretta gave Jackson the best present ever – tickets to see the Montreal Canadiens in Montreal! We drove for 8 hours for them to lose the game basically within the opening four minutes. They lost 6-2. But you’d better believe that for the two goals that they did score, Jackson went off as if they had just scored the Stanley Cup winning goal.

Loretta and Jackson at the Bell Centre in Montreal about to watch the Montreal Canadiens

 

An even better example of Jackson’s sports fanaticism was at a Toronto Blue Jays game. We had great seats in left field above the bullpen – right where Jose Bautista likes to send his dingers. They lost 11-1. But for that one run that they did get, Jackson was losing it – even though it was pretty clear that they wouldn’t win the game. Take a look at Jackson jumping up and down in the picture below as Loretta and mostly everyone else in the area has given up all hope of them making a comeback.

Loretta and Jackson (circled in white) celebrating a Blue Jays home run even though the score was already 5-0.

Who gives a flock?!?

So since this is a blog about love and all that mushy stuff – what in the world is more cute and lovey-dovey than baby lambs????

Our dog boarder has a 50 acre hobby farm and a few of their sheep just had babies!!!! If you know Loretta at all, then you know that she LOOOVES babies. Especially fuzzy ones. So, needless to say, when we went out to pick up our puppy and Loretta heard of the little wooly bundles of joy, what would normally have been 15-minute visit quickly turned into a 2-hour-long ordeal of snuggling and cuddling.