Wedding Video!

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Here is our Wedding Threesome Contest video! WATCH it and then SHARE it with all of your friends! The more views we get – the better our chances are of winning this whole thing!!!

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Hello friends,

The time has finally come for the second phase of the wedding threesome contest to come to a close.

We’re not going to lie — at the end of phase I, when we heard that we had to keep up a blog for three weeks during the middle of final exams and final projects, we were less than thrilled about the idea. These three weeks have really been some of the busiest of our lives. However, despite our crazy schedules — we prevailed. And since a majority of these posts were written by both of us, together — the task actually served to strengthen our bond as a couple. During some of those crazy, busy days, it was almost therapeutic to actually sit down together for an hour or two and write stories and laugh about times when it wasn’t so crazy.

Naturally, we got by with a little help from our friends, too. On some of those days when we just couldn’t find an hour to come up with bloggy genius together, some really amazing people were there to bail us out. Brian, Tawn, Miles, Jeff — we really appreciate your special guest contributions – you have no idea how huge they actually were for us.

We would also like to thank all of you who have devoted a bit of your time each day to coming and reading the blog. We can’t even believe the amount of views we’ve gotten in just three weeks – and from all over the world, too!

The winning couples from phase II will be announced here http://www.weddinggirl.ca/ on Monday, April 16th. Three out of the four couples will be moving on to phase III, but we don’t yet know what phase III has in store for (hopefully) us.

We sincerely hope that we don’t have to harass you all again — but if we do, we’re certain that you will have our backs! Your support throughout this whole competition has been unparalleled and we appreciate everything that all of you have done for us.

Writing this blog has definitely been a lot of fun. It has given us the opportunity to reflect on a lot of the fun things that we’ve done during our time together; It’s given us the opportunity to express some of our ideas and visions about our wedding day; And — of course — it’s given us the opportunity to share all of these experiences with you all.

We will leave you now with ten reasons why we think that we should move on to phase III:

  1. We are two amazing people who really deserve a break
  2. We have the best and most supportive friends and family!
  3. Our blog has been awesome (it’s been cute, touching, funny, sweet, romantic…)
  4. The announcement is the day after Jackson’s birthday — and moving to phase III would be a sweet present (‘that plus beer,’ says Jackson)
  5. Loretta’s computer died yesterday so now we have to pay for that, too
  6. Loretta’s high school cheerleading team gets a pizza party if we win
  7. Jackson’s friends each get one beer if we win
  8. We have a really cute puppy
  9. We have been paying for school for a combined 13 years – with 5 more years to go!
  10. We really want to be able to afford the wedding of our dreams

If you all can think of any other reasons as to why we should win – show us some love and post it as a reply! Let’s give Jay from Captivate Bridal, Rick from Rick Denham Photography and Mary from a little help in selecting this year’s Wedding Threesome Contest winners 😉

Would You Like Some Cheese to Go with Your Whine?

We thought we’d share some exciting plans we have so far for our upcoming nuptials.

When: February 2013. Why a winter wedding you ask? Well there are 3 good reasons:

1. Graduate students don’t get many vacation days and since we both attend university year-round the only time we know we will have time off is our reading week, which happens to fall in February.

2. The venue we picked is amazing (see below) but is only available in the winter season.

3. We want to honeymoon somewhere exotic so why not go when it will be cold here?

Where: We are getting married at Loretta’s church, Westminister United Church in St. Catharines. Loretta has many fond memories at the church growing up, so it was a natural choice. Our reception will be held in the former Niagara District Courthouse in the beautiful Niagara-on-the-Lake. Originally built in the mid 19th century it was once a courthouse, jail, and town hall. The courthouse is now designated a national historic site of Canada and currently is home to the Shaw Festival during the summer months. Niagara-on-the-Lake has a special place in our hearts (as you read about in our engagement story) and we fell in love with the venue instantly!

Niagara District Courthouse in the heart of Niagara-on-the-Lake is the venue for our wedding reception

Our Wedding Theme: We love our wine. From our first date to wine tours in the summer, we’ve (mostly responsibly) had our fill of wine – mostly white, mostly Riesling, to be specific. Jackson even bought Loretta a giant wine glass where we keep every cork – if it’s for a special day, we write the date and the occasion on it! Given this, plus the fact that our wedding is in the heart of wine country, we naturally decided that our theme should be wine and cheese – inclusive of a cocktail hour wine tasting with a wine barrel bar, some wine themed decor, a cheese wedding cake and wine and cheese themed favors.

We opted to skip the traditional wedding cake and have a wedding cake made out of cheese wheels!!!

Cheese Spreaders and Wine Corks as Wedding Favors

A wine barrel bar to serve a wine tasting during cocktail hour

Jackson and Loretta save all of their wine corks!

Some wine themed decor

How it all Began – The Story of our First Date

Jackson here. This is the story of our first date – from my perspective.

It was mid-March, 2009 when Loretta and I had our first date. I was super nervous. My hands were sweaty, my voice was shaking. I was in trouble.

However, as luck would have it, I was guided by some excellent advice (and even a prop) given to me by Miles, one of my amazing groomsmen. He suggested that if you’re really nervous on a first date, it’s good to have some kind of an activity do so that you can fill in any possible awkward moments with a turn at the activity – and for those who know me well, you know that I have a tendency to be a little awkward at times.

For Loretta and I, this activity was Boggle – Miles actually lent me his personal copy for that night. But even though I had this genius crutch, I don’t think I actually needed it as Loretta and I hit it off tremendously (though, I probably had a little extra confidence having that awkward-saver as a back-up if I needed it!).

Boggle - great first date activity!

Loretta set out some treats for us to munch on – white wine (Riesling, at least a 2) and some pineapple with chocolate dipping sauce (mmmm).

We played a few rounds of Boggle as we munched on pineapple and sipped on Late Autumn Riesling. As I kept winning round after round of boggle (I’m a words-guy!), I could tell that Loretta wasn’t really fond of losing – so I let her win a couple of rounds. Good thing the conversation came so easily, because the Boggle may not have been the perfect fall-back crutch that I had hoped it would be!

Loretta had a great sense of humour and seemed to really take a shining to my goofiness and especially liked my Mike Tyson impersonation – I had been working on it earlier that week. As the night wore on, I noticed that if she got up off the couch to do something, when she came back she would sit down closer and closer to me every time. I thought – she likes me, awesome!

The defining moment must have been when Mr. Deeds unexpectedly came on the TV. Prior to our first date, we had talked about how we loved comedy movies and Adam Sandler’s Mr. Deeds was one of the films at the top of our lists – this couldn’t be just a coincidence!

'The hideousness of that foot will haunt my dreams forever'

When the night was over, Loretta showed me to the door.  This was it – the ‘make-it or break-it’ moment – time to leave a lasting impression. As we both went in for the kiss goodnight, Loretta went for the lips – and I went for the cheek. The kiss ended up being an awkward combination of a half-cheek, half-lip kiss.

I thought to myself – ‘I blew it, best just to get out without any more awkwardness.’ So then I turned to the door and pulled on the handle and it wouldn’t move – it was locked.  Of course it was. Loretta unlocked the door opened it up for me and as my face burned with embarrassment, I thanked her and walked out the door. Way to go, Jackson – way to leave a ‘lasting impression.’

Fortunately for me, Loretta (obviously) overlooked that awkward ending – she actually found my nervousness and awkwardness to be kind of endearing. And look at us now, more than three years later and engaged to be married!

It only took about 15-20 dates for me to stop shaking like a leaf every time I went to knock on her door.

A picture of us during our first summer together

Loretta’s Love to Cheer

Ok, I had to feature these guys. I love Jackson, I love Wern – our pup, I love planning for our wedding… but I also love working with these athletes. I spend up to 6 hours a week coaching a high school competitive cheerleading team with 3 amazing coaches. I can’t believe how far these kids have come over the past 3 years… building a team that can execute elite level tumbling and acrobatic skills is not an easy feat. We started with a group of kids with virtually no experience and this year our team will be traveling all the way to Montreal to compete in the Canadian National Championships. The students were all too happy to try to help us win the contest. Many of them participated in the ‘pimp’ phase as to many 14-18 year olds, Facebook is totally their thing. They even wanted to help us out in phase 2! Here is their contribution to our blog:

If we win, it will make a whole lot of high school girls and boys happy!

They are still holding me to my promise – If Jackson and I win, they get a pizza party in Montreal for all of their help! Jay, Mary, and Rick – you can come too and get in the on the pizza party action if you’d like, we need some more chaperones. Chaperoning a group of 30 teenage boys and girls in Montreal – sounds like an easy task, right? 😉

A ‘Decent’ Proposal

We know you’ve all been waiting on bated breath to hear about how Jackson popped ‘the question’ to Loretta. Well, without further ado, here’s the story of ‘The Proposal.’

It all began in early October, when Jackson was plotting and scheming on how he would possibly get Loretta to the place where he knew was the perfect place to ask her to be his wife.

Jackson had a plan to take Loretta away for a romantic weekend in Niagara-on-the-Lake (NOTL), but the tricky part was trying to get Loretta to agree to it without her being suspicious that something was up, as she is usually the one to plan the getaways.

Needless to say, Loretta knew, or at least hoped that something was up. However, as she was the one to pack all of the luggage – and she went through every piece, item by item – her hopes were deflated as she found no evidence of what she was hoping to find (i.e. a little jewelry box). Note to the guys: the ladies never check the inside jacket pocket.

As we drove down the highway, Loretta started to get nervous as we approached the U.S. border – she kept telling Jackson she didn’t pack her passport. Jackson started to sweat as it started to rain a little. Jackson turned off the highway at the last exit before the U.S. border and the rain had stopped. Thank god – says Jackson. Jackson suggested we take a walk – a walk in 10 degree drizzly weather. We pulled into Queenston Heights – a park in Queenston near NOTL. We had been there before – maybe 6 months into our relationship, Loretta brought Jackson there to have a picnic. In our first visit there we set-up our blanket right near the bandshell under a beautiful tree on the most perfect summer day. That was the day – the day that we both knew, the day that Jackson knew Loretta was the one and the day that Loretta knew Jackson was the one.

So, 2 ½ years later as Loretta reluctantly went on that walk in the miserable weather, Jackson found that tree we sat under on that nice summer afternoon and he got down on one knee.

Jackson was so nervous and Loretta was so excited that neither Loretta nor Jackson really know what he said to this day – but whatever he did say, it must have worked. Loretta said yes – obviously, that’s kind of why you’re reading this.

Loretta at the hotel just after agreeing to be Jackson's wife - she looks excited!

Loretta and Jackson spent the rest of the weekend celebrating NOTL style. Loretta bought Jackson an amazing umbrella, they went to a fancy dinner and they stayed at the Queen’s Landing Hotel. It’s so fitting that NOTL is where we’ve decided to celebrate our love on our big day – almost exactly 4 years from our first date!

Loretta couldn't help herself. She had to sneakily send this picture to her maid of honour while Jackson was in the bathroom.

The secret to long-distance love… ‘the post-it note’

Some of the post-it notes we've kept from our long distance days!

  

Jackson and I started out the first two years of our relationship doing the long distance thing. Ok, not the easiest thing to do… but a few tricks made it a lot easier. Enter the post-it note. I started sending J post it notes with his lunch I would pack for him on Sunday mornings for work. I’d try to get it in his backpack when he wasn’t looking so he would have something cute to read that day. Jackson would then do the same before he left on the weekends. I would find funny notes all over the place throughout the week when he wasn’t there with me. When we moved in together we found that both of us kept all of each others notes. Here are a couple of my faves:

Loretta to Jackson:

I had a great weekend with you yet again! Thank you for taking me skating I had so much fun. You are such a great teacher and hopefully one day I can stop on my skates just like you 🙂 Also, thank you for driving around to every store to look for chicken with me. No chicken? They all were just outta chicken? LOL. On that note enjoy your lunch and have a great day at work ❤ Loretta xoxoxo

Jackson to Loretta:

Every bit of my heart beats for you Loretta. My right and left atria and ventricles, even my bicuspid and tricuspid valves. I wish I was spending the day with you instead of studying this stuff. I love you ❤ xoxo J.J.

Thoughts from A Groomsman – Special Guest Blog

When Miles, one of our ridiculously handsome groomsmen, heard that we were featuring special guest blog authors – he was chomping at the bit to get in on a little bloggy-style (wedding) threesome action! He’s a beauty! Enjoy…

Jackson and I have been great friends since high school. I think it was our mutual admiration for Led Zeppelin that brought us together in Clarkie’s communications class. When you see another dude wearing a Zep t-shirt, you know the guy is good shit.

As the years went on our friendship grew tremendously. This was made even stronger by the fact that we both attended McMaster University at the same time a few years ago filled with lots of coffee rendezvous’ in the Student Centre and mid afternoon beers in the campus bar, Quarters. McMaster’s campus was probably the site of our most epic adventure together, so join me friends, as I describe ‘St. Patty’s Day 2009.’

When we woke up that morning we knew we wanted to get drunk somewhere. We had a vague plan in our minds to go to school, get some beer, and that was basically the extent of it. We arrived on campus around lunch time without the foggiest idea of where we would go or what we would do, all we knew was that beer was needed and it would be consumed. After hitting the Beer Store, we embarked back to campus with backpacks full of beer and nowhere to drink them.  The rest of the day played out like this. After having a quick forest beer we staked out one of the buildings where we waited for Jackson’s friend who lived in res to get out of class. After very little convincing, and the offer of some of our beer, we went back to the res, and consumed the beer. The rest of the evening involved going to a few pubs, and breaking up a domestic disturbance on the street between a guy and his girlfriend. With nowhere to retire to, we slept in my car amid temperatures that reached freezing. Being drunk as it turns out really does make you feel warmer.

This also happened to be a few days before Jackson and Loretta’s first date, and I remember vividly the excitement with which Jackson talked about it. Little did either of us know that that first encounter, a few days later, would be such a momentous occasion in his life. If I can claim any small role in the early success of their relationship, and considering how well it turned out, I think it’s fair to be a little selfish in claiming a role, it would be me lending my boggle board game to Jackson which they played on their first date. If I never owned boggle and couldn’t have lent it to Jackson, who knows what would have happened? Actually, I’m fairly certain things would have turned out just the same, but come on, I can take a little satisfaction out of that can’t I?

I love both of these guys and am so happy that they found each other! I would also like to suggest, for nostalgia sake, that we have a forest beer on your wedding day. No? Probably not? Alright I’ll just drop it then.

Our featured author - Imagine how handsome the male half of the bridal party is going to be if this is only one fifth of the crew. Lookin' good, Miles!

“and they called it puppy love”

Wow we have written over 10 posts and we have yet to blog about our pride and joy, our puppy!

When we both decided to pursue graduate school, move in together, move out of Loretta’s apartment and into a new house, we also thought hey we also need a dog! Why not?

Loretta has always wanted a great dane – Jackson didn’t think that this was such a good idea as he thought a 150lb dog sounds like a little more than we can handle. So we went back and forth on what breed of dog we wanted and decided upon the most beautiful breed out there, the Weimaraner. Yes that gorgeous silver dog that no one can pronounce its name. We often get “oh is that a ‘wimuraner?” or ‘weimerhiemer’ or even Loretta’s mom calling the breed a ‘rhymewhiler’.

We picked out our puppy from a litter of 11, born January 31, 2011. How do you pick just one puppy out of that many cute little fuzzy babies, you ask? Well, we decided on a big boy who seemed very calm and relaxed. HAHAHA anyone who knows our pup knows we did not choose the relaxed puppy.

Wernicke just a couple of days old!

And what did we name this boy? Wernicke. Now, most of you will fit into 3 groups:

  1.        You don’t know the term and think it’s a weird name, or
  2.        You know it and you think we are clever nerds, or
  3.        You know it and you think we are lame nerds.

As a future neuroscientist and a speech-language pathologist, we wanted a name that reflected both of us so we decided on Wernicke, after Wernicke’s area – the area of the brain that is responsible for language comprehension (see we are nerds – but take solace in the fact that it is not our 1st born’s name). However, this name is fitting – as we believe he may have Wernicke’s aphasia meaning he has severely impaired language comprehension, especially if he is in the backyard or the dog park (although the word ‘treat’ still gets through!).

 

How Wernicke got his name

Wern is now 14 months old, 85lbs and a bundle of love and energy. He can go on a 10km walk and prance back in the house asking ‘ok so what next’. He loves giving kisses or will nibble your fleas for you as a sign of affection. He loves morning snuggles in bed and can clear the room pretty fast with his ‘stink bombs’.

Here are a couple of cute moments:

Oh Boy digging is fun! Why do you look mad?

Maybe he's a little too big to sit on our laps

Wernicke and Jackson hanging out together

Wernicke's 1st Christmas

Commandeering the bed ALWAYS!

What Wern was doing while we were trying to write this blog!

Who gives a flock?!?

So since this is a blog about love and all that mushy stuff – what in the world is more cute and lovey-dovey than baby lambs????

Our dog boarder has a 50 acre hobby farm and a few of their sheep just had babies!!!! If you know Loretta at all, then you know that she LOOOVES babies. Especially fuzzy ones. So, needless to say, when we went out to pick up our puppy and Loretta heard of the little wooly bundles of joy, what would normally have been 15-minute visit quickly turned into a 2-hour-long ordeal of snuggling and cuddling.